mamad
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Living through the sudden loss of my son
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Post by mamad on Oct 21, 2016 23:36:04 GMT
I know that death is a part of living that non of us can escape, and it’s not something that we would expect to have to ever think about in relation to our children. Loss of anything can be difficult for us to deal with, but I don’t know if there is anything harder than to deal with the sudden, unexpected death of a child. My son’s parting from this world was not one that I would have ever expected and came with no warning. The news sent me directly into a state of shock and disbelief because i didn’t know how to comprehend what my reality had become. I felt paralyzed, not knowing what to do next, what to say, what to ask. Click to continue reading |
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Post by Cheryl-Ann on Oct 26, 2016 22:55:49 GMT
Hi,
I'm so sorry for you loss. I lost my son at age 11 to a drowning accident.
I totally understand how you felt. When you don't get a chance to say bye it leaves you feeling unfinished.
I've read most of you blog posts and they are so true. Best wishes for the future
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mamad
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Post by mamad on Oct 28, 2016 17:32:10 GMT
Cheryl-ann,
Thank you for your response. This journey has been like no other I've experienced. I write as a way of getting out some of my emotions, and also to answer some of the questions that I'm asked.
Stay Blessed
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Post by wandat on Oct 31, 2016 19:25:40 GMT
Hi mama,
I wish I had thought of doing something like a blog for my daughter, I started a scrapbook so i could remember things that she's done. Thank you for sharing i will continue to read your posts, and all the best.
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Post by mamad on Oct 31, 2016 19:54:15 GMT
Thx for your feedback Wandat,
Scrapbooking is an awesome idea. I think we choose what's best for us at the time. I think the scrap book is a great reminder of special times and places. Pictures become so important in times like this.
Blessings
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Post by Chris on Nov 5, 2016 14:02:00 GMT
Hi Mamad,
First, I'm truly sorry for your loss. He seems like a great young man.
This post touched me and made me and my wife weep, it brought us back to the night our son died, it was tough and beautiful to read, you write well. And the feeling of not having closure, not having a chance to say our good bye, it still bothers me today and its been 3 years. It really doesnt get easier, but we cope. I sent you a personal message on your blog site, I hope it helps.
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Post by Sharlene on Jan 3, 2017 2:39:16 GMT
Hi,
very strong writing. My sister lost her daughter 4 years ago. I showed her your blog. she cried while reading and thanked me for sharing. We wish you the best
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mamad
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Post by mamad on Jan 16, 2017 4:46:45 GMT
Hello,
Thank you for sharing it with her. I'm finding that writing has been really good for me. There are a lot more things I want to do also. What do you do daily to get through?
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Post by lostangel09 on Jan 18, 2017 0:42:15 GMT
Hello,
sorry for your lost. I lost my oldest daughter coming up 8 years and it still feels like yesterday. It is like I lost a huge piece of my life and myself, she was my first born and was just coming into her own. I lost her to cancer. New in my wildest dreams that I thought I would experience a thing that would break me. Being strong is the hardest for me because I have always been the anchor for everyone else and I really haven't accepted her as being gone. It is a hurtful feeling. My family is my rock but hard to talk to them about my feelings.
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Post by mamad on Jan 24, 2017 0:12:15 GMT
Hello, I am so sorry for your loss. My son died eight months ago, I have no idea what eight years will look like for me. I too felt like, and still do, that this was not my life. Unfortunately this our new normal, and I can only look for ways to cope. I too am not much of a talker and that's why I started writing my blog, writing helps me express some things that come up for me. Have you seen a therapist? What do you do to get through? |
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Post by lostangel09 on Feb 27, 2017 1:39:43 GMT
Hello
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So sorry it took me a minute to get back.. I started school in the spring and it takes up a lot on time theses days. I have stopped for 2 years and now trying to get back in the hand of things. I am seeing a therapist. It is helping me compared to where I was almost a year ago. I was depressed and didn't know how to adjust. I am learning to take time for myself because my girls are getting older and trying to take baby steps in getting back into life in general. I still have trust issues and being in a relationship with the opposite sex and that will take time, however I have starting talking with an old friend and we have the interest there so we will see what will happen. What I was doing was trying to stay so busy so that I wouldn't deal what the lost but it took a toll on me. I didn't have a break down although I may have been close and didn't know it. Talking to someone is good to have but if it wasn't for my family I think I would have had a break down. The days doesn't seen too hard like before although you never get over it. It is just trying to get through for me right now. I still haven't talked with my family but I will get there. These are the new steps that I am taking. Posting to your post was the second step. My Therapist made the suggestion. I was everyone's rock... the one everyone comes to because it seems like I have it all together... If they only knew.. I function professionally quite well it is the personal life is what I have lost control of. I am the type of woman who has always in control (together). ...but this broke the trend for me. She was my first born, the oldest, and my trend setter. My other daughters are well and get my time more now. CANCER was her thief in the night and the fact that I had no control was the hardest thing. I thank you for allowing me to her your story and tell you mines. I hope that we can continue to chat. I will do my best to not wait too long to reply, like is said school, work, life and home takes so much of my time but this is a new channel and I am trying to grab a hold of my traps to pull it all together in a new way for my life. Be encourage and Blessed.
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Post by mamad on Mar 22, 2017 0:46:49 GMT
Hello Lostangel09,
I'm sorry it took me so long to reply, I haven't been here for a few weeks.
I'm so glad to hear from you again, and hear how you are doing, and it is very encouraging to me. I'm happy for you, and you deserve to find happiness and joy. We spend so much of our time being parents, it's sometimes difficult to do anything else. You're a superstar, and I would love it if we kept in touch, however often or less often as you would like. And feel free to message me on my blog as well - I'm there much more often.
Sending you warm hugs
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Post by lostangel09 on Apr 2, 2017 19:17:29 GMT
Hello Mamad
Thank you for the warm thoughts and words of encouragement. It is a hard task to move on but I am starting to move in a better place although it took ma a long time to get here. I spend time with my other two daughters as much as I can because they are growing up so fast. I am learning that I need to make time for me because I wasn't doing that and everyone else came first. I am the rock that holds everyone else together and I forogt about me and my needs for the longest time. It is still new and I am trying to manage my life as I go through but I get those set backs from time to time. It was as if I stop living and not dealing was the hardest thing and I didn't know that it was causing me shut down. As strong as I thought I was, I wasn't when it came to the lost I had suffered. I still feel un-whole at times because I lost the first chain that linked me as a mother. My family has been my greatest support through it all. I pray that your healing will continue to give you strength and comfort. I will try to hit you on your blog. Start with little things that allow you to move at your own paste. It is still a journey but time is the best medicine as well as your family. Hope to hear from you again soon, I like talking to you as well.
Prayers and Blessing to you
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Post by mamad on Apr 11, 2017 2:02:47 GMT
Hello again,
Yes, I hope we can continue this conversation, its seems helpful for us both. It's great to see that you are pushing through, it certainly is a process with highs and lows, but none the less, we a pushing through. I have not been writing as much lately, the weather is changing here in Ontario and its been so beautiful so walking has become great therapy for me now.
Stay well
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Post by lostangel09 on Jul 25, 2017 20:54:27 GMT
Hello again,
It has been a while. I am well and still working out somethings. Looking for another career advancement. Recently started dating. it is helping me with getting back in th social life. Therapy is still going well.. I have moved it back to 6 to 7 weeks for now because I was begining to run out of things to talk about.. this year marks 8 years since I lost my angel but it is a constant reminder with ever year. Well hope to talk again soon. School will be starting again. I try to check often, so until next time be Blessed.
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