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Post by Lonelyheart on Aug 1, 2019 3:45:50 GMT
I lost my infant daughter 6 months ago. I feel so lonely. I miss her so much. I put on a brave face to keep going and take it day by day but I feel so lonely. My whole life revolved around her in just those few months. Now shes been gone longer than she was with me but life just has such an emptiness to it. Its a hole nothing no matter how much I try can fill
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Post by kirstie on Aug 21, 2019 19:40:26 GMT
I lost my daughter too she was born too premature. It's been two months and I feel crazy she would've been my first born and I always wanted to be a mom. I wanted her so bad. I don't know how to live a normal life anymore I feel crazy inside
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Post by Lonelyheart on Aug 23, 2019 4:09:02 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter was my first too. She made me a mom. Now I just dont know am I a mom or not because shes gone. Her 1st birthday is coming up and its killing me. I am doing everything I can to distract myself and not think about it but it keeps creeping up.
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Post by slay on Aug 31, 2019 5:14:47 GMT
Oh mein! I lost my first born too. It’s been 3 years and I literally keep asking myself this same question everyday. Does it ever get easy!? It’s been a while and I didnt cry after he passed. It ht me months later. And it still affects me a lot. I feel worse . Ugh! I hate this feeling. My mistake was to suppress my feelings . So you ladies just let it out as much as u need to. I didnt cry until after a year. It was a horrible mistake!! I was in such shock and anger I couldn’t even cry. I felt so numb. 😭. And now i feel so lost and terribly lonely even with my husband around.  . Hope we can all endure this pain. Sometimes i just want to die from so much sadness! 😭 |
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Post by slay on Aug 31, 2019 5:22:15 GMT
Hi sorry for ur loss. I am trying to reply to you sorry if i mess up this post . But i just want to tell you from experience not to hold back. If you buried her or cremated her do what you feel in your heart as in cry or go to her grave or go somewhere she loved.... someone just recently gave me an amazing advice to go to do an activity for yourself . For me, The first year i went to the chapel prayed and cried. The second year I went for a massage and just cried out during the massage it was the most relieving experience ever. The third year I hang up his picture.
His birthday date is also coming up and I am not sure what I will be doing but someone advised me to go do an activity matching my baby’s actual developmental age. And try to enjoy it as if he was here with us. Also because our babies are still alive in our hearts and we can only imagine what it would be like to be with them and celebrate their birthdays with them. I know t is difficult. And I am sucking at this advice but hopefully I helped a bit. I know how hard and lonely it is . I am also going through it.
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Post by Lonelyheart on Oct 9, 2019 3:02:01 GMT
Thank you for your advice saly. I think its good advice. I am still struggling with letting my feelings out and not supressing them. I dont share with the people around me. I started a new job and no one knows what I have been through. I dont want them to know but I feel even lonelier when they talk about their kids. I miss my baby girl so much. I ended up separating from my husband after our daughter passed but a part of me feels hes all I have left of her. I am just so lost and I know I am not making any sense.
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Post by pacmansmom on Nov 10, 2019 8:04:58 GMT
Being a parent is hard...being a bereaved parent is very, very hard.
I don’t think it gets easy, I think it gets worse most of the time, however, there is healing. We are powerless over the loss, we are not powerless to how we deal with the loss. Healing is a choice, it’s an option & you have to personally decide if you want to heal. Don’t get healing confused with healed, we will never heal from this type of loss, it isn’t possible, but there is healing. It’s kind of a life long terminal disease we have, it won’t kill us, but it’ll try...self-care, surrounding yourself with authentic, compassionate people, feeling your pain, identifying your triggers & learning how you personally can cope with your trauma is healing.
...I made a choice one afternoon, I was wallowing in my grief...I thought about what I would say to Kyle, my son when I see him again in Heaven. I want to be able to tell him that his life brought love & kindness, not self destruction & chaos. I want him to know he was my heart & it pumped everyday for him.
We all have our moments, we are allowed to completely fall apart. Does it ever get easy? No, it gets different.
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Post by Lonelyheart on Nov 30, 2019 6:26:14 GMT
I am so sorry to hear about your son. I am starting to understand what people mean when they say things get different. Its true how theres a before and after. Like that day becomes the defining factor of your life. I am doing everything I can to try to heal but its like not possible. I have 2 months left till 1 year since my daughters been gone. Like each day felt so long, but now its like wow its almost a year. The holidays dont help because she was here last year all of her first holidays and they were her last too. It really makes life so lonely. How are you making it through the holidays?
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. Hope we can all endure this pain. Sometimes i just want to die from so much sadness! 😭